I tend not to like “male gaze” as a phrase, tend to personally adopt, when necessary, a concept something like “dudegaze,” a word I use for the spectator-in-the-text (or whatever you want to call it — the implied listener) of a certain kind of male’s gaze. A more specific social class with a broader definition of what counts as “class.” (What comes to mind is something like Katy Perry’s “I Kissed a Girl.”) “Male” feels too broad, since the kind of male it’s targeting doesn’t feel like it’s me, even if it has a (dude-like) affect on me that I may or may not be aware of.
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speaking here as a person also occasionally inclined to use dude/bro/dudebro/etc. to distinguish a particularly repellent type of male specimen, i have to say this stance, coming from a male-identified person, strikes me as frankly very dudely. i’ll freely admit i lack the theoretical background to thoroughly engage with the concept of the male gaze as outlined first by laura mulvey and developed further by later scholars, but i am nonetheless comfortable in saying that you don’t get to give yourself a get-out-of-misogyny free card just because you don’t want to root for drunk girls making out with each other for your pleasure. i can’t imagine a conversation about gender and media that would be a good place for men to talk about why they are Not Like Those Other Guys, mostly because i can’t imagine it being a good idea to center men in a conversation about gender and media and that’s exactly what’s going on when you rush to clarify that you’re one of the good ones.
or to be more obnoxious but also perhaps more honest about it: “how men feel about the concept of the male gaze” is up there with “what it’s like to be a male liz phair fan” in the world of things i am so thoroughly uninterested in i could plotz.
I repeat my previous stance that if you feel the need to respond to critiques of social privilege and oppression by whining “BUT I’M NOT LIKE THAT,” nah, DUDE, you are soooooo like that.